Resolutions not working? Feeling lost? Try this.

//Resolutions not working? Feeling lost? Try this.

Resolutions not working? Feeling lost? Try this.

Have you ever set a goal, determined you were going to make it work this time no matter what and then… life got in the way and it never happened?

Maybe you wanted to lose weight and a few weeks into going to the gym, you get sick and skip a week and then… never go back.

Maybe you want to read more books this year or start a business or change jobs or do more community work… and then… life.

And then usually, you feel like a failure. You’re disappointed in yourself. You determine that you’ll try again next week. You’ll start tomorrow or Monday. And the cycle continues. Next week never arrives. Tomorrow never comes. You don’t feel good Monday so push it off to Tuesday.

This happens to us all. It’s a bummer of a cycle and very frustrating.

Or possibly you’re in the camp where you feel lost and you just don’t know where to go, what to do or what goals you should have.

And I hope this isn’t true for you, but some people even give up on setting goals altogether. If this lights your heart up and makes you feel free, then great. But if this feels like giving up then take heart. There is another route. 

Don’t let the voice of fear disguised as practicality thwart your dreams. 

And don’t put off getting started just because of the time it will take to get there. The time will pass anyways. 

Here is an incredibly helpful tool for you. How did I come up with this, you ask? Not sure. I just started doing this years ago and have found it HUGELY helpful in achieving dreams and goals. I don’t even know exactly how it works (you can let me know your theories in the comments, if you like), but I do know it works brilliantly.

I call it:

Future Journaling

bronze age hat knitted lifestyle- benefits of future journaling

Here’s what you do:

Step 1: Grab a journal.

Step 2: Write down a date in the future. It could be 1 year from now, 3 years, or just next month. No rules. You choose.

Step 3: Journal as if it were that day and as if your dreams and visions had come true. Boom. This produces a crazy shift in your brain. You’re writing AS IF that goal had already been achieved. It puts you in an excited, fresh state of mind. Rather than mully-grubbing that you haven’t gotten to where you want to be yet, you (if only for a few moments) slip into the state of having achieved it already.

And this sensation doesn’t leave you when you stop the journaling process. It stays with you throughout the day. Your brain will start to pick up on new things and see things you didn’t notice before. It’s almost as if your brain starts to search for ways to make this new, envisioned reality real for you.

bronze age hat knitted lifestyle- benefits of future journaling

Things to Keep in Mind:

-Be as general or specific as you like. I tend to prefer specifics. Dollar amounts. Pounds lost. Places visited, etc. But if you just aren’t sure exactly, then go general. I actually did this with my yarn business when I first started it. And my reality now completely blows that original dream out of the water.

-Focus on the feelings you’d have if these experiences came true. How amazing do you FEEL on this date in the future, now that you’ve lost those 20 lbs? Incredible! Write down those feelings.

-Write in present tense, or past tense, as if it’s happening now or already has happened. For example: “I worked out for 45 minutes today and kept my sugar intake to less than 10 grams! I feel incredible. My energy is through the roof and so far I’m down 20 lbs!”

-How often should you do this? Up to you. I really don’t do this that often, although, daily would be fantastic and probably more effective. You choose.

-Just to avoid confusion later, you can put a note that you’re future journaling. I haven’t in the past, and have grabbed notebooks and started reading and thought… what? I met the president? When? Oh, yeah, I was just future journaling.

This is not to say that everything you write down will come true. Obviously. You still need to set your goals and raise your standards and take daily action toward whatever you want to achieve. But this is a great exercise for shifting out of your stuck mindset, allowing ideas to flow through you (who knows what your mind and heart will come up with!) and it’s just loads of fun.

I hope this technique helps you! If you do try it, let me know what you think.

If you have another technique that helps you achieve your goals, comment below and help the rest of us out!

Enjoy your day!

Chandi

P.S. For those that will ask, I’m wearing my Bronze Age hat pattern.

P.S.S. The notebook I’m holding is my beloved Danielle LaPorte Limited Edition Daily Planner. Can’t recommend it highly enough.

By | 2017-09-04T14:04:39+00:00 January 15th, 2017|Life Musings|7 Comments

7 Comments

  1. Yvonne Pelayo January 15, 2017 at 9:23 pm - Reply

    My dearest Chandid! Life has happened to me as you just perfectly described. I have been pondering AND pondering AND yep even more pOnderiiiing on starting my etsy shop with hand-knitted items. I was suppose to start before the Thanksgiving Holiday and BAM life happened! My father was going to have an extremely complicated back surgery in December. He is my mother’s main caregiver, (she has advance Alzheimer’s) and after his surgery required 3 months of recovering so he would be unable to care for my mother during this delicate time of recovery. We live in opposite ends of the country so I had to put my plans on hold and fly to be by my father’s side and help my sisters care for our mother. I knew that with my parents is where I needed to be and was happy to be there for them indeed. A month later my father is recooperating well and I’m back in my home with my lil’family. Have I refocused on my dream? My plan? My shop? Well nope not really and yes a big part is this ugly little thing called fear! Oh boy….well I read your post and you always inspire me not only with your words of advice, but just through your work, your creations. I purchased a journal for my father for the holidays and he adored it so much, he wrote in it everyday, he thanked me for it. I never considered doing the same for myself. Strange right? Anyway thank you Chandi, for being candid and true as always. Much love and happiness, Yve ?✌❤

  2. Linda January 15, 2017 at 10:21 pm - Reply

    This sounds fun. I never go anywhere because my husband does not like to travel. Perhaps I can do so in my journal. I think I will try this.

  3. Sara January 16, 2017 at 7:30 am - Reply

    This is AMAZING Chandi!! I have been looking for something like this to keep me on track! I have so many goals and dreams at times it can be so overwhelming that I feel like I can’t acheive any of them! I read your book too and you have so many GENIUS ideas!! Thank you for always sharing your road to success.

  4. Latrina January 18, 2017 at 9:06 pm - Reply

    I have been trying with no success to access the free patterns after putting in the copy to the captcha. I keep getting the incorrect message. Site not easy to navigate. Very disappointed

  5. Sandy January 31, 2017 at 4:16 am - Reply

    I have bee watching Chicago Fire and reading Nancy Thayer ‘ s Beachcomber and I’m knitting socks. I would love to win the Jan/Feb yarn giveaway. If I did you would have to scrape me off the ceiling. (Not a pretty sight)My birthday us January and what a gift this would be. Love all your colors..

  6. Melissa February 7, 2017 at 3:48 pm - Reply

    I love this idea! I will have to give it a try. You totally hit the nail on the head with this, life does happen and goals/dreams do get pushed to the wayside. I needed to hear this, thank you so much! 🙂

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