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How One Stitch Can Make a Difference

“The moment you decide to walk your own path, to listen to the calling of your own heart, you will find true freedom; and thus peace; and then joy.”

Why do we knit or crochet?

I asked this question on facebook and loved the responses. They ranged from “Because it relaxes me” to “I enjoy watching the yarn turn into something beautiful” and more.

So I started thinking about it and I had one of those emotional life epiphany things and I’d like to share it with you, in the chance that you’ll relate and it will boost your day. There really is little that comes close to the joy of connecting with others who share your passion.

In my twenties I went through a rough time. A time of my own making, I admit, and have no one to blame but myself. But I was unhappy and felt like I was making all others around me unhappy.

I felt everyday as if my life was hopeless, I did no good in the world and even had suicidal thoughts. The idea of my poor lil mom hurting if I took my own life was one of the only things keeping me going.

I lived almost constantly in regret over past decisions that I couldn’t change. I begged God to reverse time. He didn’t.

When I wasn’t dwelling in regret over the past, I was living in despair over imagined future misery.

It was a time of consistent gut-stripping fear, boiling anger and deep, unbearable sadness.

I really don’t know how I got through each day, except to tell myself that I can at least get through this one day. If that was too much, I could at least get through the hour. If that seemed impossible, I’d tell myself to just get through this minute. When that became overwhelming, I’d just get through the next second. The next step. The next breath…

What I didn’t realize at the time, but now fully understand and utilize as often as I think about it is the power of now.  The deep, resonating peace that can only be found in focusing on this moment, right now. If we continually dwell in the past and its regrets or even the greatness of it and how that has now faded, like past beauty, or successes, we will be miserable.

We have to let it go. 

If we continually dwell in the future, fear inevitably arises and worries of money, our children’s and family’s safety and happiness, sickness, pain, old age, death…That is a recipe for distress.

We have to let it go. 

When I began knitting, it was a solace to me. When I was knitting, I no longer regretted the past. I no longer worried over the future, because the only thing that existed while I was knitting was that stitch. Just work that stitch. Now work the next one. And the next one.

Hours could go by in relaxed bliss. I found comfort, peace and rest in this simple craft.

Sometimes even now I have the feeling that loving something like knitting and crocheting and yarn is silly… that I should do something more important with my life than just… crafting. I should change the world! Start a revolution! Give all my worldly possessions to the poor and go meditate on a mountain top in the Himalayas!

Or something.

But the truth of it is, knitting was the balm on my broken and bleeding heart. It gave me joy during a time in my life when very little did.

And I’ve realized that one of the greatest joys I now get in life is teaching others these crafts. When someones says that they knitted or crocheted one of my patterns or used my yarns or that I inspired them… My heart bursts with joy and fulfillment.

So the art of making something with your hands is not a pointless craft. And it’s even more than ending up with a functional item, like a scarf or hat or mittens or blanket, although that is a wonderful part of the whole process.

I think the reason we love it so much is that is allows us to find a snippet of peace in a world of anxiety and hurt. And it’s something that we have control over when we can’t control our families, others’ happiness or the state of the world.

But we can choose to work another stitch. And have peace in our hearts. And create something beautiful that brings joy to ourselves and others.

And that to me, is a worthy cause. And it does indeed, make a noticeable difference in the world.

“You love what you love for a reason. Do it with your whole heart and the world will expand with the joy of your soul.”

~Chandi

From my heart to yours, have a beautiful day.

By | 2017-09-04T14:05:12+00:00 July 31st, 2012|Crochet, Inspiration, Knitting, Life Musings|29 Comments

29 Comments

  1. Sarah Modrell July 31, 2012 at 6:02 pm - Reply

    Beautiful & touched my heart today! Thank you <3
    Sarah

    • Chandi July 31, 2012 at 6:04 pm - Reply

      Thank you, Sarah. I’m glad you enjoyed it. 🙂

  2. Teresa July 31, 2012 at 7:38 pm - Reply

    Your story touched my heart so deeply, I can’t begin to describe! I can relate to every word and the troubled times. I’ve been there. I absolutely love to create with yarn and I almost always give it away to someone because they deserve the love that was put into it & to feel the love each time they wear or use something I’ve made. My yarn has gotten me through some of the worst times! Thank you for your story!!

    • Chandi July 31, 2012 at 7:46 pm - Reply

      Teresa, I’m so happy you related to my story! And that you find such comfort in making lovely things to give to others. 🙂 Thank you for your comment. I means a lot to me.

    • Valerie December 5, 2013 at 10:07 pm - Reply

      Chandi.
      That is such a beautiful story and very very inspiring. I’ve always enjoyed crafting and an still new to knitting and crocheting but I absolutely love it and cherish the time I get to spend on it!!im going to try and become better at it in 2014! I love your stories and posts and look forward to them every day!! Thank you for what you do!

  3. Danielle - A Stash Addict July 31, 2012 at 9:40 pm - Reply

    Your such a lovely person! what a lovely post! x

    • Chandi August 1, 2012 at 12:33 am - Reply

      Thank you, Danielle! Much appreciated!

  4. Valorie Fischer August 1, 2012 at 3:45 am - Reply

    Chandi,

    I too went through a very difficult time in my life. I am grateful we both made it through. And yes, Crochet keeps me out of my head. The stresses of life cannot exist in that space. I did want to share two things that I have learned…. (1) I am who I am today in part because of the journey that I traveled to get to this place; and (2) everything in my past can be used for good today — if even just to help someone else out of their own self-inflicted painful place.
    You inspire me, uplift me, and always make me smile. The world is a better place with you in it. I believe in part because of your darker past, your light shines like a beacon through other people’s dark places!

    • Chandi August 2, 2012 at 11:55 am - Reply

      Hi, Valorie!

      Yes, your points are very true. I’m grateful for the lessons of the past and the peace that gives me today. 🙂

      Thank you for such sweet words! I can’t tell you how much it all means to me. Really, thank you!

      ~Chandi

  5. Mawel August 1, 2012 at 6:29 am - Reply

    I recognise so much of what you’re describing. I’ve been battling depression for almost 3 years now. Have been in therapy, taking medicine, training to get endorohine rushes but the only thing giving me genuine calm is knitting/crocheting .

    • Chandi August 2, 2012 at 11:52 am - Reply

      Isn’t it funny how such a simple thing brings such peace?

      I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. When I was in a fearful/sad place in my life I enjoyed the writings and youtube videos of Esther and Jerry Hicks, and their guide Abraham.

      They just have a way of putting things that were eye-opening to me and began my true healing. If you like reading, you might enjoy their book, Ask and It Is Given. It’s one of my favorites. 🙂

      Have a restful day.

      ~Chandi

  6. Marsha August 1, 2012 at 7:22 am - Reply

    Hi Chandi,

    Thank you sharing with us. I wanted to let you know that reading this really confirms a belief I’ve been coming to lately. Through illness I’m having to accept that I will never raise a family or have a brilliant career or run around saving the world from all that ails it. I’m lucky if I manage to make dinner!
    Knitting, crocheting and spinning make me happy. I feel guilty sometimes for spending so much time on something so frivolous, but really, isn’t making something beautiful and showing people the value of such simple pleasures worth it? There is a lot of darkness in this world, so if this is how we can keep that darkness at bay and even bring some light to others, then we would be doing the world a disservice by neglecting our crafts.

    Keep creating <3

    • Chandi August 2, 2012 at 11:48 am - Reply

      Hi, Marsha.

      Yes, yes. Love it. “We would be doing the world a disservice by neglecting our crafts.” Well said!

      All we can do is all we can do. I love the saying that states: Do what you can. With what you have. Where you are.

      And that is truly all we can do. And I believe everything happens for a reason. Blessings on you today and thank you so much for sharing. It truly boosted my day and brought joy to my heart!

      ~Chandi

  7. Sharon in Calgary August 1, 2012 at 5:54 pm - Reply

    “We cannot live only for ourselves. A thousand fibers connect us with our fellow men; and among those fibers, as sympathetic threads, our actions run as causes, and they come back to us as effects.” -Herman Melville

    Good morning, Chandi … Thank you for sharing your story, your craft, your joy in today, and your wisdom. Knitting can be a metaphor for life, and for change – the miracle of how one positive, productive, little thing, repeated over and over can transform .. Not just Fibre, but mountains, civilizations, and even one precious human life. Just as each stitch in a lace pattern is essential to the whole piece, each life is important to those it touches.

    In this day, as I sit in my little garden, I’m thinking of you with love as I transform your Swan blossom into a piece of wearable art. As each stitch becomes part of this shawl I know that it’s more than just a tangible thing that I am creating, but one more link in the chain that ties us all together.

    From me here in Canada – to you there in Alaska … Know that you are valued, important and unique.

    Blessings be, little one. Stay strong.

    Sharon

    • Chandi August 2, 2012 at 11:43 am - Reply

      Oh, Sharon, thank you SO much.

      Your message nearly made me cry. It really touched my heart.

      I loved the quote. It’s so true. And what a beautiful knitting metaphor you shared.

      My heart just bursts with glee to think of you in your garden with Swan Blossom, a colorway near and dear to my heart.

      I appreciate your comment so much… Thank you and have a beautiful day.

      ~Chandi

  8. Leslie August 6, 2012 at 4:54 am - Reply

    My Channi-Gurl,

    As I read this amazing post, I couldn’t help but see the way in which God stitches our lives together with each other, with all our collective experiences, disappointments, joys, dark places, highlights, boring days, pointless nights, our mistakes, our victories, and so on (I could go on & on). It’s quite the masterpiece, and for me personally, my little piece of this artwork has been made ever so much more beautiful with the stitches He has used to entwine you with me and this little family we like to call the “Schreckhise Clan.” I love you, Sweet Thang.

    • Chandi August 6, 2012 at 5:23 pm - Reply

      Thank you, Les! So now I’m cryin’ again. Ha ha! Silly emotions. I love you too!

  9. Penny September 2, 2012 at 2:43 pm - Reply

    Hello Chandi, ever read something & then read it again later & realize, “wow”, that is what happened when I read this again…. I can so relate to your difficult, painful time. When I was feeling it just won’t end, I would go one day at a time, if that didn’t work, one hour at a time, then one minute at a time… Knitting brings me peace & contentment, I love the craft & realize I am good at it, really good! I share this joy with gifts to close family & friends! Thank you so much for sharing so many of your personal thoughts & feelings. One of my dreams has always been to go to Alaska but have never done it, maybe I really need to think about making it happen!

    • Chandi September 2, 2012 at 4:17 pm - Reply

      Thank you, Penny!

      It’s so good to know you enjoy knitting and gather so much peace and contentment from it. Yes, Alaska is beautiful and definitely worth a visit! I hope you get to come.

      Have a blessed day! ~Chandi

  10. Penny September 2, 2012 at 2:48 pm - Reply

    Sorry, I meant to end my comment with…… From Penny in Ladner, British Columbia, Canada

    • d'Arcy December 7, 2013 at 2:27 am - Reply

      Hello Penny…I am just through the tunnel from you in Richmond….:)

  11. Connie September 24, 2012 at 5:14 am - Reply

    Chandi,
    I applaud your honesty and candor. Not only do we share a pure love for all things yarn-related, but also for the beauty of the carefully placed word in expressings our hearts, souls and minds. Reading your blog tonight has brought a much-needed peace to my soul. I suffer with physical pain every hour of my life and have for several years. Ergo, knitting, crocheting, and spinning bring me uncanny relief that is unavailable in a chemical compound formulated in a laboratory. There is no doubt that we are separated by many geographical miles, yet I feel a kindred gravitation that is undeniable between us as “sisters of the strand.” You and your talents as a yarn-crafter and writer have been a gift tonight to this weary soul who is exceedingly grateful to and for you. In His Mighty & Tender Love, Connie

  12. Debbie Corsetti December 5, 2012 at 7:08 pm - Reply

    Thanks so much for sharing your inner feelings with us. It really touched my heart. Best of luck to you in all you do!

  13. Kara December 5, 2013 at 10:36 pm - Reply

    This is so true. Your story is touching and inspiring. I may even try to put a dent in the pile of UFOs (unfinished objects) that I have in the corner of the work room! 🙂

  14. Debbie December 6, 2013 at 1:58 am - Reply

    This is so true. Sitting and crafting keeps in that zone you don’t have to think about the stress,or other things just the stitch. Very well said. I really understand the whole point. Thanks for sharing!!!!

  15. Jess Anne Cole December 6, 2013 at 1:14 pm - Reply

    You will never know how much I needed this today……now. Thank you for being so open and caring.

  16. Christy December 6, 2013 at 11:01 pm - Reply

    You are very much my inspiration. Yarn brings me true happiness
    Thank

  17. d'Arcy December 7, 2013 at 2:25 am - Reply

    thank you…you have expressed how I feel about my knitting…not as talented as you but….it gives me much, much solace when the world becomes…a pain…too much drama, too much blame….just too much every man for himself! Knitting is an art and a love…<3

  18. Sue Mathis Phagan December 7, 2013 at 6:02 pm - Reply

    I was meant to land on your page today. I read your page most of the time and look at the yarn ALL of the time. You have reminded me of my blessings…..to not look back! I have been a knitter for a long time, even working in two yarn shops and teaching. I, also have been through bad times in the past and knitting always was the balm that soothed. When I had to give up my home, car, and all possessions because of an accident that rendered my attorney husband unable to work, I had a pity party for 12 years. We had not saved enough and are in an apt. on social security. His health is bad and I am his caregiver. I am working on my faith but I have’t knitted in a long time. I don’t know why. I am going to pick up something from my stash today and knit! Thanks, Chandi! By the way, I have seen a lot of yarn, but your ability to dye blows me away! I also used to watercolor and color is my thing. Keep on doing what you do, Sue

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